Mother Jean Gloria
October 25, 1921 - August 25, 2011
Rest in Peace
September 09, 2011

October 25, 1921 - August 25, 2011
Rest in Peace
September 09, 2011

This is my mother at the age of 20, or so. While sorting through some of her possessions in the days following her recent death, I came across a high school yearbook dated 1941 where without a doubt she was by far the prettiest girl in her graduating class, and I say that with all personal bias aside. My father once told me that after returning from his tour of duty in the Philippines during the Second World War, he fell for her the instant he first set eyes on her at a local dance hall. All of his buddies however told him that he'd never have a chance with her --- a good looking, small town Italian girl like that who comes from an Old World family would never even give him a second look. But she did, and shortly thereafter they fell in love, married, and remained husband and wife for 65 years, and now into eternity.
Jean Gloria passed away exactly one year and three days after the death the man she loved so dearly. His departure left an immense hole in her life that she felt with every beat of her ailing heart. While simultaneously tethered to a kidney dialysis machine that seemingly did more her more harm than good, she finally came to the realization that if this was to be her life, then it was hardly what one could call living and so she resigned herself to the likelihood of death as a preferable alternative. But despite her suffering, she continued to carry herself as she did throughout her entire life --- with humility, grace, dignity, and courage --- and that is why I offer a photo of young Jean Gloria. Self-conscious of her increasing frailty, she succumbed to the prison that life had become. The fragile and brittle figure that she had transformed into was not how she wished to be seen, nor is it how she would have wished to be remembered. By comparison her healthier body and spirit of yesteryear was a thing of rare beauty --- vibrant and alive, filled with love, compassion, and devotion to family. That is how I choose to remember her. But now with her passing, along with my father's which occurred at this same time last year, I too am left with an emptiness in my own life that can never be refilled. Those of us who have been lucky enough to experience a lifelong friendship and loving bond with our parents know this loss all too well. And those who haven't will never know, nor will they ever understand all that they have missed.
I certainly know that I will miss my mother, as I have missed my dad. Therefore I'd like to dedicate this post in honor of her --- Jean Gloria and her unbridled love --- knowing that she has finally been released from the suffering that she (like my father) had been forced to endure in the final years of their lives. And I hope too that she will have finally found the restful peace that we all long for so deeply within our hearts.
Jean Gloria passed away exactly one year and three days after the death the man she loved so dearly. His departure left an immense hole in her life that she felt with every beat of her ailing heart. While simultaneously tethered to a kidney dialysis machine that seemingly did more her more harm than good, she finally came to the realization that if this was to be her life, then it was hardly what one could call living and so she resigned herself to the likelihood of death as a preferable alternative. But despite her suffering, she continued to carry herself as she did throughout her entire life --- with humility, grace, dignity, and courage --- and that is why I offer a photo of young Jean Gloria. Self-conscious of her increasing frailty, she succumbed to the prison that life had become. The fragile and brittle figure that she had transformed into was not how she wished to be seen, nor is it how she would have wished to be remembered. By comparison her healthier body and spirit of yesteryear was a thing of rare beauty --- vibrant and alive, filled with love, compassion, and devotion to family. That is how I choose to remember her. But now with her passing, along with my father's which occurred at this same time last year, I too am left with an emptiness in my own life that can never be refilled. Those of us who have been lucky enough to experience a lifelong friendship and loving bond with our parents know this loss all too well. And those who haven't will never know, nor will they ever understand all that they have missed.
I certainly know that I will miss my mother, as I have missed my dad. Therefore I'd like to dedicate this post in honor of her --- Jean Gloria and her unbridled love --- knowing that she has finally been released from the suffering that she (like my father) had been forced to endure in the final years of their lives. And I hope too that she will have finally found the restful peace that we all long for so deeply within our hearts.
Mo(u)rning Glory(ă), Pt.1
A Memorial Suite in Two Parts
1) 'Introduction'
2) Bing Crosby
Van Dyke Parks
3) The British Museum
4) Gentle Persuasion
Gabriel Yared
5) Buffalo Voice
Frank Zappa
6) "I'd like to somewhere else right now"
7) Who Shot Sam?
Charlie Rich
8) Maud And Roland In North Hampshire
Gabriel Yared
9) A Life In East Poultney
Tin Hat Trio
10) This Is Only The Beginning ('Anything Goes')
Harpers Bizarre
11) The All Golden
Van Dyke Parks
12) New York Theme
Tom Waits
13) Naval Aviation In Art?
Frank Zappa
14) Donovan's Colours
Van Dyke Parks
15) Poignant Thoughts
16) Maud And Roland
Gabriel Yared
17) Hey, You In The Crowd ('Anything Goes')
Harpers Bizarre
18) Journey To Whitby
19) A Hotel Room In Whitby
Gabriel Yared
20) Last Dance
Sarah McLachlan
21) "Parlez-vous Français?"
22) Si Tu u'Etais Pas La (Fréhel)
Edith Piaf
23) Into The Mystic
Van Morrison
24) A Pig With Wings
Frank Zappa
25) "This is all wrong!"
26) La Valse d'Amélie
27) Le Petit Chateau
Yann Tiersen
28) If I Were You
Peter & Gordon
Mo(u)rning Glory(ă), Pt.2
A Memorial Suite in Two Parts
1) Punchy Tack Piano
Jon Brion
2) He Needs Me
Shelley Duvall
3) Waikiki
Unidentified Lounge Singer
4) Mona Chimes
Jon Brion
5) Wasting My Time
Harry Nilsson
6) Soir De Fête
7) La Redécouverte
Yann Tiersen
8) Xmas Values
Frank Zappa
9) Girl Talk
Billy May
10) Blossoms And Bloods
11) Here We Go Again
12) He Really Needs Me
Jon Brion
13) Walk Through This World With Me
Conway Twitty
14) Moonlight Serenade
Glenn Miller Orchestra
15) Sand Dog Blues
Tin Hat Trio
16) You'll Lose A Good Thing
Barbara Lynn
17) They Made Me Eat It ("What's It Like?")
Frank Zappa
18) Girl From Ipanema
Harvey Mandell & Red Rhodes
19) "True or false?"
20) Navanax
Frank Zappa
21) Width Of The World
Tin Hat Trio
22) Little Cowboy
Harry Nilsson
23) When Sunny Gets Blue
The 'Incredible' Johnny Mathis
I'll be taking the remainder of the month off and will resume publishing in October when I'll return with a new Frank Zappa Project/Object that I'd been working on at the time of her death. I hope I'll see you then.
A Memorial Suite in Two Parts
1) 'Introduction'
2) Bing Crosby
Van Dyke Parks
3) The British Museum
4) Gentle Persuasion
Gabriel Yared
5) Buffalo Voice
Frank Zappa
6) "I'd like to somewhere else right now"
7) Who Shot Sam?
Charlie Rich
8) Maud And Roland In North Hampshire
Gabriel Yared
9) A Life In East Poultney
Tin Hat Trio
10) This Is Only The Beginning ('Anything Goes')
Harpers Bizarre
11) The All Golden
Van Dyke Parks
12) New York Theme
Tom Waits
13) Naval Aviation In Art?
Frank Zappa
14) Donovan's Colours
Van Dyke Parks
15) Poignant Thoughts
16) Maud And Roland
Gabriel Yared
17) Hey, You In The Crowd ('Anything Goes')
Harpers Bizarre
18) Journey To Whitby
19) A Hotel Room In Whitby
Gabriel Yared
20) Last Dance
Sarah McLachlan
21) "Parlez-vous Français?"
22) Si Tu u'Etais Pas La (Fréhel)
Edith Piaf
23) Into The Mystic
Van Morrison
24) A Pig With Wings
Frank Zappa
25) "This is all wrong!"
26) La Valse d'Amélie
27) Le Petit Chateau
Yann Tiersen
28) If I Were You
Peter & Gordon
Mo(u)rning Glory(ă), Pt.2
A Memorial Suite in Two Parts
1) Punchy Tack Piano
Jon Brion
2) He Needs Me
Shelley Duvall
3) Waikiki
Unidentified Lounge Singer
4) Mona Chimes
Jon Brion
5) Wasting My Time
Harry Nilsson
6) Soir De Fête
7) La Redécouverte
Yann Tiersen
8) Xmas Values
Frank Zappa
9) Girl Talk
Billy May
10) Blossoms And Bloods
11) Here We Go Again
12) He Really Needs Me
Jon Brion
13) Walk Through This World With Me
Conway Twitty
14) Moonlight Serenade
Glenn Miller Orchestra
15) Sand Dog Blues
Tin Hat Trio
16) You'll Lose A Good Thing
Barbara Lynn
17) They Made Me Eat It ("What's It Like?")
Frank Zappa
18) Girl From Ipanema
Harvey Mandell & Red Rhodes
19) "True or false?"
20) Navanax
Frank Zappa
21) Width Of The World
Tin Hat Trio
22) Little Cowboy
Harry Nilsson
23) When Sunny Gets Blue
The 'Incredible' Johnny Mathis
I'll be taking the remainder of the month off and will resume publishing in October when I'll return with a new Frank Zappa Project/Object that I'd been working on at the time of her death. I hope I'll see you then.

31 comments :
That is a beautiful tribute.
RIP beautiful Glory.
Beautiful words Miles. If there is a life after death I hope your mother's wings are now mended.
Beautiful words, Miles. Many of us will have experienced similar losses, but could never have put it into such touching words. Take as long as you need, and thank you for sharing your thoughts and music.
Miles,
My mother passed on this year in March. I share your sense of loss and thank you for sharing this beautiful tribute.
May Glory's spirit now free from the pains and restrictions of an aged body once more find peace and happiness.
My condolances. My mother passed last week. Your tribute to your mother will become a tribute to mine.
Miles, a fine tribute to your mother, take all the time you need, take care and all the best, I'll be thinking of you at this sad time,Anonymous Ajay
A beautiful way to deal with your loss - and am sorry for you they are both gone -
Sadly, the people I was closest to died when I was very young, my grandparents-
my parents never should have had kids - not close to either one, so do not know the feeling as far as that goes ; (
The loss of one parent is great, but the loss of the second is indescribable. I lost my father in January and am losing my mother a little bit each day due to dementia, sometimes only faith can keep you going.
Miles,again,so well spoken.I am sorry to hear of the loss.Alas our Dear Ones leave us,but their LOVE returns to us daily.Peace my friend!
I'm sorry for your loss. After seven years I still miss my mother and through the the years I am sorry I did not take more time to get to know her in so many ways.
Thanks for all that you share.
Sorry to hear about this Miles. The last few years have been hard for you. This memorial compilation looks quite promising and fascinating too. Thanks so much.
Beautifully written tribute to your lovely Mother. Mine passed away in '86 and I still think of her dearly. Energy cannot be destroyed, only transformed. Peace
So sorry to hear of your loss Miles....these events mark us in different ways. In the end, it seems best to celebrate our parents lives by the way we live out your own lives. It may be the only way we have of closing the circle.
Miles, what a brilliant tribute - a mixture of great prose and music that I bet conjures up a lifetime of memories.
Thanks for sharing something so personal with your online following, and may your family find peace in the days and years ahead. I've suffered the loss of my grandfather, aunt and stepdad in the last 3 years myself so I have a glimpse of what your family is experiencing.
Peace.
Wonderfully written, sir. Thank you, and sympathies on your loss.
Sorry for your loss and deepest condolences.
Miles, my deepest condolences for your loss.
As you so often do, you've found a way to spin personal memories into a great mix. I'm listening to it now and it is great. "If I Were You" by Peter & Gordon is absolutely mesmerizing. Amazing song.
May peace find you, partly through this music, and the passing of time.
My condolences, all I can say is that things do get better, it just takes time. Paul
the longest road out is the shortest road home ... sorry to hear of your lost but comfort can be found in knowing she suffers no longer and is reunited with those of her past
Miles, I'm extremely sorry for your loss. I hope you are alright. This is a wonderful tribute. Thank you for sharing this with us all.
My condolences to you Miles. Apparently spouses frequently die not long after the other. It must be a very difficult stage of life for you. As a musician myself, I think your musical tribute to your mother is a wonderful way to celebrate a life.
I wish that I could have found as wonderful a way to pay tribute to my Mother when she passed. God bless.
Very sorry for your loss Miles, It happens to us all, but its never that simple.....your Folks would be proud of your loving words to us all!!
Niall
miles,being 65,i have some health issues, but none life threatening,thank god.but when i go, i dearly hope there is someone who will write so glowingly, and post such a great musical tribute.i wish you all the possible strength to deal with your loss.
all the best
hans
miles, just seeing that photo come up, with the dates - took my breath away. all i could think was 'aw shit! again..'
too soon, too close together, but as i see, you're 'keeping on' as they say.
and i, like several others who commented here, unfortunately know the feeling intimately.
it's a sign of US having gotten to a particular vulnerable age.
keep the faith buddy.
my sincere sympathies.
Rocdoc
My most sincere condolences, Miles. I lost my mother 2 years ago (my Dad just keeps keeping on - a Jazz guy like your Dad was).
My Mother and I never had the "closing reconciliation". I forgave her; she couldn't forgive herself. I visited her her last Christmas knowing she would die soon. I flew back to the US (to her funeral) less than 20 days after I left her. And, all the same, I have still have sorrow over that.
Miles, I hope that you are OK and looking forward.
Send me an Email sometime.
"and in the end,
the love you take
is equal to the love
you make".
The Rock in Egg
I remember seeing the mothers of invention at the shrine auditorium in los angeles 1968-9 sometime. I was young and they were kind of scary, with frank in complete control of his music. Thank You.
I remember seeing the mothers of invention at the shrine auditorium in los angeles 1968-9 sometime. I was young and they were kind of scary, with frank in complete control of his music. Thank You.
I remember seeing the mothers of invention at the shrine auditorium in los angeles 1968-9 sometime. I was young and they were kind of scary, with frank in complete control of his music. Thank You.
That was a lovely and moving tribute. It made me think of my older sister who died in infancy-her name, Gloria Jean.
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